Door Mat or Disciple???
Rose from our waitress and print out from my son.
Is there a fine line in our character between being a door mat or being a disciple? One of my struggles is this very question! Is my character one of being a door mat? I don’t want to be walked all over. Is my character one of being a disciple? I want to have a reflection that reflects my heavenly Father. Yet, here I am on the eve of Mother’s day asking myself the same questions, plus more. Everyone is in bed and I’m sitting here writing, pondering this day. I woke up late with a sore throat, stuffy nose, pounding headache and mad that I missed church and the TV preachers I like to watch. So I took care of my ailments, grabbed a cup of coffee and started reading everyone Mother’s day post. As the hour went on, I soon discovered hubby’s stomach problem had flared up and he wasn’t wanting to go out for dinner tonight. Along with the fact that he bought me a card, but it is still out in his car, unsigned. My thoughts were fine the day is still early enough. If you don’t want to go out we will just have frozen dinners. Over the next few hours, I did some Bible work. Around early evening, I went in to fix my frozen dinner. Apparently that must not have been appetizing enough, because we ended up at a restaurant. By the time we got home it was almost 9 pm, this is when my son pulls out of his backpack a print out he had colored for me in school. Off to bed he goes, off to bed hubby goes and that is where we come together. Myself asking these questions, Am I a door mat or a disciple?
What are the definitions?
The characteristic of a door mat in people is this: a person who offers little resistance to ill-treatment by others.
The characteristic of a disciple is according to real life Boston.com, “The essence of discipleship is our right response to God’s call on our lives. Discipleship is a matter of being willing to become all that God wants us to be.”
The characteristics that I want to reflect in my life is just that as described in disciple. So even though today has been a bit disappointing, I still am that person whom I can face in the mirror because I am still going to do whatever I can for other. Seeking God’s direction, looking for Him to display Himself in my life and believing He has the best for me.
What about you, door mat or disciple?
In His Love, Crisi
Good question. I could be wrong, but I don’t think that it is inappropriate to help your spouse understand your needs. Husbands are not mind readers, so it can help to nicely bring it to their attention when something is bothering us. I think if you keep swallowing the disappointments and the little hurts that those little things can become something big, and that something big can destroy your relationship. Of course there is a time for offering grace and letting things go, but don’t let issues build up. Just my thought on the subject.
Thank you Jennifer for your gracious words. I agree and yes it is appropriate to help them understand. Your thoughts are appreciated and taken in love. Happy Mother’s Day.
Thanks Crisi. I’m glad you understood what I meant. I recently found myself in a situation where issues had started to build up without my husband or me realizing it. Fortunately once it came to our attention we were able to have a heart to heart which really helped. I don’t know all the details of your situation– it just reminded me of what I went through, so I thought I should share just in case it helped you.