Wounds into Beautiful Scars
“Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.” Hebrews 4:16 NIV
There is many emotions when the wounds in life are created by death or loss through death. The process of them turning into a scar that we can hold dear vary in each loss and each person who is grieving. I like most have felt the pain that death’s wound leaves on our heart. The first time I remember losing a loved one, I was sixteen years old when my great grandma passed away. Four years later, I was on a date with my now husband when the reality of her death finally sunk in. Talk about an awkward moment, trying to explain why out of the blue you start bawling like a baby. The most resent was my mom, her death has been a subject I have written about before. You can read her story at “In Her Inspiration” and “In Her Inspiration [part 2]” . The loss that I wrestled with God a lot over was the lost of an unborn child. That story of how I struggled is available to read at “Setting Our Moral Compass – Events in Our Life“.
The one thing that makes them all the same has been God’s presence with me. He has provided me with hope. Hope that I will see them again one day. Hope for a better tomorrow. Hope for the future. Hope in the comfort provided by others. This hope does not come automatically. You have to call out to Him, seek Him and trust Him. You may not want to call out to Him, you may even be angry at Him. I was and it took a long time for me to finally call out to Him. I am so happy that I did eventually came back to Him. The loss is still there but the pain has died down. I have been comforted and so can you. The hardest thing to do is take that first step, but each step after another will get a bit easier.
“Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted” Matthew 5:4 NIV
Don’t try to be strong and hold the tears back when others are trying to comfort you. Hold on tight to them and let the tears flow. There is a time when you will need to pick up your strength in God and go on courageously after your time of mourning has eased. This is when you will be able to seek after the Lord and begin to heal.
There are various resources available for all types of losses. The resource that helped me the most with the loss of my unborn child was “Silent Grief” by Clara Hinton.
In His Love, Crisi